3 Ways to help teen girls grow into confident and resilient adults – All 4 Women

3 Ways to help teen girls grow into confident and resilient adults – All 4 Women

Sometimes even our best-intentioned actions can reinforce stereotypes and place limitations on our girls.

Social Media is not the biggest barrier to teenage girls becoming assertive and resilient adults. It's how society tries to limit them.

Here are three ways to help teen girls grow into confident and resilient adults:

1. Create a family culture of equality
Sometimes even our best-intentioned actions can reinforce stereotypes and place limitations on our girls. In fact, children become aware of gender stereotypes, and how they should behave because of it, by *two years old. By creating a culture of equality within the family and being mindful of the language we use, we can show girls of all ages that their gender does not limit them. They're not 'bossy', they're 'confident'; yes, they're naturally social, but they're also naturally good at maths; and while that doll could be cool, so could that truck be.

Support your daughter in making choices based on her interests and abilities, and not on her gender.

2. Use social media as a positive tool

Social media can be a source of insecurity because our human tendency is to compare ourselves to others, and this tendency is strongest during the teen years. These days, it's almost impossible to keep teens off Instagram and TikTok. Therefore, it's crucial to not only give your teen girl the tools to deal with social media, but also to show her how to use it to learn. Social media can be a tool to build confidence, resilience and launch movements – look at Greta Thunberg, for example.

3. Show her what's possible
Frequently, girls don't select professions in traditionally male-dominated industries because they don't believe they are options available to them. Or they don't know how to get there. From coding to aeronautical engineering, there are hundreds of opportunities for teen girls to explore that didn't exist when they were born. Encourage the teen girl in your life to explore these opportunities.

Article by personal development coach and mom of three, Despina Senatore. Her book, Soar! aims to provide teenage girls with career insight, inspirational stories and various tools to live confident, empowered and purposeful lives.

* References:
Challenging gender stereotypes in the early years: the power of parents by Our Watch.
Gender stereotypes in early childhood: a literature review.


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